
STEP 2
Choose a Process, Organize the Process
Your time is precious. There are many process options – but let’s simplify things:
We could talk about DIY Kitchen Table Agreements (but they are unwise) or Litigation at Court (but its structure worsens conflict IMHO and there is little control over outcome) or Arbitration (still a non-mutual solution imposed on your family) and more importantly, we don’t assist people with those. Let’s talk Supported Negotiation.

STEP 3
Work the Process, Conclude the Process
The settlement talks proceed forward in a common-sense manner, but specially attuned to the specific needs and problems of a family transitioning between one household and two.
Once the participants are ready, they’ve chosen a process and hired the professionals required, we focus first on those issues that are more time-sensitive or urgent.

STEP 4
Draft, Finalize, Sign the Agreement
The Collaborative lawyers, or the Mediator, will prepare a draft of the written Separation Agreement. It is a legal document with many obvious and many hidden requirements so that it becomes something that binds both parties to the legal terms within.
It is not a fill-in-the-blanks exercise! While it might start with a framework precedent, the skill comes in when it is customized to the individuals and their children and the exact terms of their settlement. Key is that it is clear, contains everything needed, and able to be interpreted in only one way.
FINAL GOAL
Proper execution (signing) of the document in compliance with the requirements of the law creates a legally enforceable agreement, captured in paper* form.
The written Separation Agreement is the objective of the whole thing. It is the end goal of the journey we can help you with.
(* Well, it used to be in paper form, now we have secure remote electronic signing tools by which enforceable legal documents can be safely and easily completed by parties and lawyers separated by great distances.)